First, there’s a big difference between telling your kids they are annoying and telling them their behavior is annoying, said Dr. Stephanie Samar, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute.  “Telling your child that their behavior is annoying will not cause long-term issues,” she told “GMA.” “With that said, it is important to distinguish between evaluating behavior and evaluating the whole person when providing feedback – saying ‘this behavior is annoying to me’ can be constructive while saying ‘you are annoying’ is not and leads to all or nothing thoughts like ‘I did a bad thing which means I’m bad’.