Every child and every family is different, but many of the issues parents struggle with as kids develop are widely shared. In this section you'll see questions other parents have sent us, and answers from our clinicians. You may find here other families wrestling with the same challenges you’re experiencing, and we hope the information, insights and advice our experts offer will be helpful to you as well.
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- Abuse
- ADHD
- Anxiety
- Anxiety Disorders
- Attention
- Autism Spectrum Disorder
- Behavior and Conduct Disorders
- Behavior Problems
- Bullying
- College
- Confidence and Self-Esteem
- Depression
- Depressive and Mood Disorders
- Diagnosis
- Discipline
- Divorce
- Drugs and Alcohol
- Elimination Disorders
- Executive Function
- Friends and Socializing
- Learning
- Learning and Development Disorders
- LGBTQ
- Managing Disruptive Behavior
- Media and Tech
- Medication
- Military Families
- Non-Verbal Learning Disorder
- OCD: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders
- Parenting Challenges
- Parenting Styles
- Personality Disorders
- Preteens and Tweens
- School
- Selective Mutism
- Sensory Processing
- Sex and Gender
- Sex and Gender
- Sleep
- Sleep-Wake Disorders
- Spanish Language
- Sports
- Stress and Resilience
- Substance Use and Addictive Disorders
- Suicide and Self-Harm
- Teenagers
- Toddlers
- Tourette's and Tic Disorders
- Trauma and Grief
- Trauma and Stress Related Disorders
- Treatment
Abuse
- I have custody of two children, recently in foster care, who engage in sexual behavior. What can I do?
- My son may have been abused, and is now oppositional. Could it be ODD?
ADHD
- Mi hijo de 15 años necesita ver a un terapeuta, pero no quiere. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a obtener la ayuda que necesita?
- Después de un año de terapia, mi hijo con autismo y TDAH no ha progresado mucho. ¿Mejorará con el tiempo? ¿Qué hacemos?
- After a year of therapies, my son with autism and ADHD hasn’t made much progress. Will this ever get better? What must we do?
- My daughter with ADHD is upset about summer activities being canceled. Do you have any advice?
- Mi hija con TDAH está molesta porque se cancelaron las actividades de verano. ¿Qué me aconsejan?
- How can I get my daughter with ADHD to follow instructions?
- Are there any colleges with good services for kids with ADHD?
- My daughter with ADHD can’t keep friends. What can we do?
- My 14-year-old daughter hasn’t had success with stimulants. Should she try Abilify?
- My son has a very mild case of ADHD combined. Would coffee help him?
Anxiety
- ¿Seguirá empeorando el mutismo selectivo? Parece que el mutismo de mi hija de 3 años está propagándose del salón de clases al parque de juegos y a las reuniones familiares.
- My son has trouble sleeping on school nights. How can I help him overcome his anxiety?
- A mi hijo le cuesta dormir en las noches de escuela. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a superar su ansiedad?
- Mi hija de 6 años tuvo lo que parece ser un ataque de pánico y tiene pesadillas extremas. ¿Debería preocuparme?
- My daughter, 6, had what I think was a panic attack, and she has extreme nightmares. Should I worry?
- How hard should I push my 9-year-old son to overcome his anxiety?
- ¿Qué tanto debería presionar a mi hijo de 9 años para que supere su ansiedad?
- How can I help a 4-year-old who worries about everything?
- Could an ear infection be causing my son’s anxiety?
- ¿Podría una infección de oído ser la causa de la ansiedad de mi hijo?
Anxiety Disorders
- Mi hija que tiene problemas de ansiedad está preocupada por tener su periodo. ¿Qué puedo hacer?
- My daughter with anxiety issues is worried about getting her period. What can I do?
- ¿Puede el miedo a vomitar causar que alguien vomite de verdad?
- Can a fear of vomiting actually cause someone to vomit?
- Could an ear infection be causing my son’s anxiety?
- ¿Podría una infección de oído ser la causa de la ansiedad de mi hijo?
- My daughter’s school would like her to repeat second grade. When is it good to keep a child back, if ever?
- A kindergarten student with SM refuses to use the bathroom at school. Do you have any suggestions?
- My 10-year-old daughter with anxiety won’t participate in gym. Should we push her?
- My 16-year-old son vomits before every basketball game. Could this be generalized anxiety disorder?
Attention
- Are there any colleges with good services for kids with ADHD?
- My 14-year-old daughter hasn’t had success with stimulants. Should she try Abilify?
- My son has a very mild case of ADHD combined. Would coffee help him?
- What is the difference between ADD and ADHD?
Autism Spectrum Disorder
- ¿Cómo se puede diferenciar el síndrome de Asperger del mutismo selectivo?
- How do you tell the difference between Asperger’s and selective mutism?
- ¿Cómo puedo hacer que mi hijo con autismo se acostumbre a usar el tapabocas?
- Después de un año de terapia, mi hijo con autismo y TDAH no ha progresado mucho. ¿Mejorará con el tiempo? ¿Qué hacemos?
- After a year of therapies, my son with autism and ADHD hasn’t made much progress. Will this ever get better? What must we do?
- How can I get my child with autism used to wearing a mask?
- My 4-year-old sneaks out of the house, despite locks and alarms. What can I do?
- Relatives don’t believe my daughter’s diagnosis because she doesn’t always ‘act autistic.’ What can I do?
- Can my child have both autism and selective mutism, and be treated for both?
- Our 11-year-old has high-functioning autism and can’t keep his hands to himself. He touches family, friends and strangers. We’re desperate for help.
Behavior and Conduct Disorders
- My 4-year-old with a behavior disorder attends therapy but she can’t compose sentences or express feelings. Am I doing enough for her?
- My granddaughter, 16, is terrible to her mother, but is great with us. What can we do?
- My daughter only acts out with my ex. Could it be oppositional defiant disorder?
- My son may have been abused, and is now oppositional. Could it be ODD?
- When should you get a neuropsych evaluation for a child starting school in the fall?
Behavior Problems
- How can I stop my daughter’s violence towards me and her younger brother?
- ¿Cómo puedo detener la violencia de mi hija hacia mí y a su hermano menor?
- What can we do about a 6-year-old who throws serious, increasingly violent tantrums—but not when other adults are around?
- ¿Qué podemos hacer con una niña de 6 años que hace tremendos berrinches, y que cada vez son más violentos, pero no cuando otros adultos están a su alrededor?
- How can I get my daughter with ADHD to follow instructions?
- My 5-year-old doesn’t listen to me and is disrespectful. Time-outs don’t work. What should I do?
- What are appropriate consequences for bad behavior?
- My son is having emotional and behavioral issues after I went back to work and our family pet died. What do you suggest?
- My son is 2 years old and has such severe outbursts and tantrums that it scares us. What do we do?
- My son gets angry easily and is anxious about it. Will a safe, over-the-counter remedy or a gluten-free diet help?
College
- Are there any colleges with good services for kids with ADHD?
- I think my daughter, a college student, is depressed, but she says she’s fine. What do you recommend?
Depression
- ¿Cómo consigo que mi hija, que vive de manera independiente, reciba la ayuda que necesita?
- How do you get a child who is living independently to get the help she needs?
- Una niña, cuya madre está hospitalizada, llora diario perturbando la clase. ¿Deberíamos sentir lástima por ella o exigirle que cumpla
- A child whose mother is hospitalized cries daily, disrupting the class. Should we pity her or demand that she perform?
- Should parents force kids with depression to do things they don’t want to do?
- I think my daughter, a college student, is depressed, but she says she’s fine. What do you recommend?
- My 10-year-old son has become more sensitive over the last two years and now cries over almost anything. What can I do?
- Our daughter doesn’t accept her diagnoses of anxiety and depression, and we aren’t thrilled with the psychologist. Any suggestions?
- I’m 16 and I’m feeling like there is something wrong with me. I may be depressed but I’m not sure.
- My daughter has been treated for depression, but it doesn’t seem to be working. What can we do?
Depressive and Mood Disorders
- Should parents force kids with depression to do things they don’t want to do?
- My son has made great progress in day treatment and is ready to return to a regular school. How can we get the school to work with him if he still has occasional outbursts?
- I’m 16 and I’m feeling like there is something wrong with me. I may be depressed but I’m not sure.
Diagnosis
- My 10-year-old son has become more sensitive over the last two years and now cries over almost anything. What can I do?
- My son gets angry easily and is anxious about it. Will a safe, over-the-counter remedy or a gluten-free diet help?
- Our daughter doesn’t accept her diagnoses of anxiety and depression, and we aren’t thrilled with the psychologist. Any suggestions?
- People think my son is rude because he has tantrums when we’re out, but at home he is the most loving boy in the world. Is anything wrong with him?
- When should you get a neuropsych evaluation for a child starting school in the fall?
- My 4-year-old has strange fears. Should she see a psychiatrist?
- My 2-year-old daughter has a lot of fears and they are getting worse. Should I be worried?
- My daughter, who has ADHD, gets sad and depressed when she takes stimulant medications. Does it make sense to add an antidepressant?
- My daughter says “you can’t control my thoughts” when I try to comfort her. What can I do?
- My aggressive 6-year-old, who has had many diagnoses, reacted badly to stimulants and an SSRI. What else can we try?
Discipline
- What are appropriate consequences for bad behavior?
- When should I hold a child accountable for his IED behavior and when should I give him a “pass”?
Divorce
- ¿Qué pasa con los niños cuando los padres divorciados tienen reglas diferentes?
- What happens to kids when divorced parents have different rules?
- When should we tell our kids that we’re getting a divorce?
Drugs and Alcohol
- How can I protect my son with ADHD from substance abuse?
- What should I do if my child has a drinking problem?
- Is my teenager a substance abuser?
Elimination Disorders
- A kindergarten student with SM refuses to use the bathroom at school. Do you have any suggestions?
- My 10-year-old is either pooping his pants or not cleaning properly, leading to messy underwear almost daily. What should I do?
- My 7-year-old daughter keeps wetting her pants at school. What should we do?
Learning
- Should I teach my child a second language or will it delay her language development?
- What can I do for my 4-year-old son who still doesn’t hold his pencil correctly?
- When should you get a neuropsych evaluation for a child starting school in the fall?
- My 5-year-old son, who has a development delay, is very independent but does not want to do his homework. What can I do?
- Our 2-year-old grandson doesn’t speak yet. Is using sign language a good idea?
- My son needs extra time on the SAT. Does anyone test high schoolers?
- I’m working with a student who doesn’t want to read out loud and is unresponsive in class. Please help!
- A 10-year-old boy has severe memory issues. What do you recommend his parents do? His public school?
Learning and Development Disorders
- My daughter’s school would like her to repeat second grade. When is it good to keep a child back, if ever?
- My 7-year-old son with dyslexia is easily frustrated or angered by things outside of school. Is that common?
- Teacher and parents say a first-grader isn’t retaining information from day to day. What assessment would you suggest?
- When should you get a neuropsych evaluation for a child starting school in the fall?
- My 14-month-old granddaughter has no words yet and is very, very active. Is delayed speech a sign of ADHD?
- How can I increase the positive interactions I have with my child who has ADHD and dyslexia?
- My daughter is so frustrated by her learning disorder she’s having tantrums at school. What can we do?
- A 10-year-old boy has severe memory issues. What do you recommend his parents do? His public school?
LGBTQ
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MoreMedication
- My son gets angry easily and is anxious about it. Will a safe, over-the-counter remedy or a gluten-free diet help?
- My granddaughter has autism, is extremely hyperactive and sleeps erratically. Her medications keep changing. What can I do?
- My 14-year-old daughter hasn’t had success with stimulants. Should she try Abilify?
- My son has a very mild case of ADHD combined. Would coffee help him?
- My son, who has been taking Prozac for selective mutism, is now completely verbal in school. When can we start taking him off it?
- Can Adderall and other drugs used to treat ADHD cause depression?
- Our granddaughter is severely anxious, but an antidepressant had too many side effects. Should we try a natural medication?
- Our 7-year-old, who is tapering off Prozac, is upset and irritable. Is that a symptom of withdrawal?
- Stimulant medications helped my son with ADHD, but he developed tics. Is there something else we can try?
- Why do some kids fail to respond, or respond unpredictably, to psychotropic medication?
Military Families
- My 4-year-old sneaks out of the house, despite locks and alarms. What can I do?
- My son may have been abused, and is now oppositional. Could it be ODD?
Non-Verbal Learning Disorder
MoreOCD: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders
- My daughter worries constantly about thoughts, and things she has done, that she thinks are “bad.” What can I do to help?
- A mi hija le preocupan mucho los pensamientos y las cosas que ha hecho que piensa que son “malas”. ¿Qué puedo hacer para ayudarla?
- I’m afraid my 15-year-old daughter is a hoarder because she hides food around her room. What do you think?
- My daughter with ADHD can’t keep friends. What can we do?
- My son, who struggles with anxiety and ADHD, has poor self-esteem and trouble fitting in socially. I’ve seen kids being very mean to him.
- My 9-year-old son is constantly confessing thoughts, or things he has done, that he thinks are bad. How can we help him?
- My teen has ADHD and ODD. He refuses therapy. How can I help my son help himself?
- My 15-year-old daughter has been treated for OCD but still has a lot of symptoms. Would in-home sessions help her?
- My 11-year-old son is constantly plagued by sexual thoughts he can’t control. How do we help this boy?
- Is my 15-year-old daughter a hoarder?
Parenting Challenges
- My 11-month-old likes to play with her hair, and even pulls it. Is this trichotillomania?
- A mi hija de 11 meses le gusta jugar con su cabello y hasta lo jala. ¿Esto es tricotilomanía?
- My 15-year-old needs therapy, but refuses. How can I get him the help he needs?
- Mi hijo de 15 años necesita ver a un terapeuta, pero no quiere. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a obtener la ayuda que necesita?
- A mi hijo le apasiona participar en las manifestaciones de “Black Lives Matter”, pero vivimos con mi padre mayor
- When should we tell our kids that we’re getting a divorce?
- My granddaughter, 16, is terrible to her mother, but is great with us. What can we do?
- My 4-year-old sneaks out of the house, despite locks and alarms. What can I do?
- My daughter treats her dad as a rival for my attention and is mean to him when he comes home. Is animosity towards the less-favored parent normal?
- My son cries every day at kindergarten because he misses me, and isn’t making friends. What can I do?
Parenting Styles
- Does it matter HOW I praise my child?
- ¿Importa LA MANERA como elogio a mi hijo?
- A mi hijo le apasiona participar en las manifestaciones de “Black Lives Matter”, pero vivimos con mi padre mayor
- ¿Qué pasa con los niños cuando los padres divorciados tienen reglas diferentes?
- What happens to kids when divorced parents have different rules?
Personality Disorders
MorePreteens and Tweens
- I found porn on my 11-year-old’s phone. Should I talk to him?
- My 12-year-old daughter acts much older than she is. How do I rein her in?
School
- ¿Seguirá empeorando el mutismo selectivo? Parece que el mutismo de mi hija de 3 años está propagándose del salón de clases al parque de juegos y a las reuniones familiares.
- My son has trouble sleeping on school nights. How can I help him overcome his anxiety?
- A mi hijo le cuesta dormir en las noches de escuela. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a superar su ansiedad?
- Una niña, cuya madre está hospitalizada, llora diario perturbando la clase. ¿Deberíamos sentir lástima por ella o exigirle que cumpla
- A child whose mother is hospitalized cries daily, disrupting the class. Should we pity her or demand that she perform?
- My daughter is nervous about starting middle school this year. Do you have any tips for calming her anxiety?
- My daughter’s school would like her to repeat second grade. When is it good to keep a child back, if ever?
- A kindergarten student with SM refuses to use the bathroom at school. Do you have any suggestions?
- My 10-year-old daughter with anxiety won’t participate in gym. Should we push her?
- My son, who has been taking Prozac for selective mutism, is now completely verbal in school. When can we start taking him off it?
Selective Mutism
- My son with SM is now refusing to talk to his sister. What should we do?
- Mi hijo con mutismo selectivo no quiere hablarle a su hermana. ¿Qué debemos hacer?
- ¿Cómo se puede diferenciar el síndrome de Asperger del mutismo selectivo?
- How do you tell the difference between Asperger’s and selective mutism?
- Does selective mutism keep getting worse? My 3-year-old’s not talking seems to have spread from the classroom to the playground and family gatherings.
- ¿Seguirá empeorando el mutismo selectivo? Parece que el mutismo de mi hija de 3 años está propagándose del salón de clases al parque de juegos y a las reuniones familiares.
- ¿Cómo se puede ayudar a un joven de 16 años que todavía tiene mutismo selectivo?
- How can you help a 16-year-old who still has selective mutism?
- Can my child have both autism and selective mutism, and be treated for both?
- My daughter’s school would like her to repeat second grade. When is it good to keep a child back, if ever?
Sensory Processing
- My 6-year-old son has seen two occupational therapists, and both wanted to stop treatment at six months. What’s going on?
- Mi hijo de 6 años ha visto a dos terapeutas ocupacionales (TO), y ambos quisieron interrumpir el tratamiento. ¿Qué sucede?
- ¿Cómo puedo hacer que mi hijo con autismo se acostumbre a usar el tapabocas?
- How can I get my child with autism used to wearing a mask?
- My 10-year-old daughter with anxiety won’t participate in gym. Should we push her?
- My 3-year-old hugs too hard and doesn’t like loud noises. What could be causing this?
Sex and Gender
- I found porn on my 11-year-old’s phone. Should I talk to him?
- My 11-year-old son is constantly plagued by sexual thoughts he can’t control. How do we help this boy?
- I saw by accident that my 15-year-old daughter has been talking about sex with a guy on Facebook. What should I do?
- My 11-year-old son has started having crushes on teachers and moms of friends. He has an obsessive personality and finds this all very embarrassing. What can I do?
Sex and Gender
MoreSleep
- My son has trouble sleeping on school nights. How can I help him overcome his anxiety?
- A mi hijo le cuesta dormir en las noches de escuela. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a superar su ansiedad?
- Mi hija de 6 años tuvo lo que parece ser un ataque de pánico y tiene pesadillas extremas. ¿Debería preocuparme?
- My daughter, 6, had what I think was a panic attack, and she has extreme nightmares. Should I worry?
- My granddaughter has autism, is extremely hyperactive and sleeps erratically. Her medications keep changing. What can I do?
- How do I get my son to sleep in his own bed?
- Our son never wants to go to bed and it’s making us all miserable. We need HELP!
- Since the birth of our third child, my eldest daughter refuses to go to bed. Please help!
- Could my 2-year-old be having sleep terrors?
- Our 6-year-old son falls asleep with relative ease but has a difficult time staying in bed. What can we do?
Sleep-Wake Disorders
- Could my 2-year-old be having sleep terrors?
- Our 6-year-old son falls asleep with relative ease but has a difficult time staying in bed. What can we do?
Spanish Language
- A mi hija de 11 meses le gusta jugar con su cabello y hasta lo jala. ¿Esto es tricotilomanía?
- Mi hijo con mutismo selectivo no quiere hablarle a su hermana. ¿Qué debemos hacer?
- ¿Cómo se puede diferenciar el síndrome de Asperger del mutismo selectivo?
- A mi hijo le cuesta dormir en las noches de escuela. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a superar su ansiedad?
- Mi hijo de 8 años ha estado lidiando con la muerte de su mejor amigo, y ahora su tío se acaba de morir. ¿Cómo le podemos decir?
- Mi hija que tiene problemas de ansiedad está preocupada por tener su periodo. ¿Qué puedo hacer?
- Mi hijo de 15 años necesita ver a un terapeuta, pero no quiere. ¿Cómo puedo ayudarlo a obtener la ayuda que necesita?
- ¿Está mi hijo recibiendo el tratamiento correcto para su Síndrome de Tourette (ST)?
- Mi hijo de 6 años ha visto a dos terapeutas ocupacionales (TO), y ambos quisieron interrumpir el tratamiento. ¿Qué sucede?
- ¿Cómo puedo explicar a niños pequeños que su abuela tiene cáncer?
Sports
MoreStress and Resilience
- ¿Cómo puedo hacer que mi hijo con autismo se acostumbre a usar el tapabocas?
- How can I get my child with autism used to wearing a mask?
- My daughter with ADHD is upset about summer activities being canceled. Do you have any advice?
- Mi hija con TDAH está molesta porque se cancelaron las actividades de verano. ¿Qué me aconsejan?
- My 10-year-old son has become more sensitive over the last two years and now cries over almost anything. What can I do?
- My school’s new emergency plan includes lockdown drills. How can we keep them from scaring the kids?
Substance Use and Addictive Disorders
- How can I protect my son with ADHD from substance abuse?
- What should I do if my child has a drinking problem?
- Is my teenager a substance abuser?
Suicide and Self-Harm
- My son is obsessed with fears that he will kill himself. He gets upset when I try to stop talking about it. What can I tell him?
- My 13-year-old daughter is so anxious about her sexual orientation she is self-harming. What should we do?
- My daughter who is self-harming has agreed to see a counselor. Is there anything else we can do?
- My daughter has been treated for depression, but it doesn’t seem to be working. What can we do?
Teenagers
- A mi hijo le apasiona participar en las manifestaciones de “Black Lives Matter”, pero vivimos con mi padre mayor
- What is the best high school school environment for a student with generalized anxiety disorder and social anxiety?
- What type of OT is beneficial for an approaching teenager diagnosed with nonverbal learning disorder?
- My 13-year-old daughter is so anxious about her sexual orientation she is self-harming. What should we do?
- I’m 16 and I’m feeling like there is something wrong with me. I may be depressed but I’m not sure.
- I saw by accident that my 15-year-old daughter has been talking about sex with a guy on Facebook. What should I do?
- Why do teenagers go off ADHD medication?
- My daughter is worrying about her upcoming graduation and the future. Lately she can’t sleep and her heart is racing. Is she having panic attacks?
- Is my teenager a substance abuser?
Toddlers
- My 11-month-old likes to play with her hair, and even pulls it. Is this trichotillomania?
- A mi hija de 11 meses le gusta jugar con su cabello y hasta lo jala. ¿Esto es tricotilomanía?
- My 2-year-old daughter has a lot of fears and they are getting worse. Should I be worried?
- I am a mom with a 1-year-old son. Is a weeklong separation every 4 months OK?
Tourette's and Tic Disorders
- Is my son getting the right treatment for his Tourette’s syndrome?
- ¿Está mi hijo recibiendo el tratamiento correcto para su Síndrome de Tourette (ST)?
- Should my son with Tourette’s syndrome get exposure therapy for his school anxiety?
- Stimulant medications helped my son with ADHD, but he developed tics. Is there something else we can try?
- My daughter has facial and hand tics, but not Tourette’s. What causes this?
Trauma and Grief
- My 8-year-old son has been dealing with the death of his best friend, and now his uncle has died. How can we tell him?
- Mi hijo de 8 años ha estado lidiando con la muerte de su mejor amigo, y ahora su tío se acaba de morir. ¿Cómo le podemos decir?
- How can I talk to young children about a grandparent’s cancer?
- ¿Cómo puedo explicar a niños pequeños que su abuela tiene cáncer?
- Una niña, cuya madre está hospitalizada, llora diario perturbando la clase. ¿Deberíamos sentir lástima por ella o exigirle que cumpla
- A child whose mother is hospitalized cries daily, disrupting the class. Should we pity her or demand that she perform?
- I have custody of two children, recently in foster care, who engage in sexual behavior. What can I do?
- My son may have been abused, and is now oppositional. Could it be ODD?
- Should children attend funerals?
Trauma and Stress Related Disorders
MoreTreatment
- Is my son getting the right treatment for his Tourette’s syndrome?
- ¿Está mi hijo recibiendo el tratamiento correcto para su Síndrome de Tourette (ST)?
- My 6-year-old son has seen two occupational therapists, and both wanted to stop treatment at six months. What’s going on?
- Mi hijo de 6 años ha visto a dos terapeutas ocupacionales (TO), y ambos quisieron interrumpir el tratamiento. ¿Qué sucede?
- What type of OT is beneficial for an approaching teenager diagnosed with nonverbal learning disorder?